Smokers build good rapport coz they dun shoot their mouths off

Now i was having a chat with a friend after going through coach training today. And we once again chanced upon an interesting concept. And that is, sometimes in our eagerness to save the world or rather the people in the world and share with them our grand plan or points of views, we tend to complicate matters. What do i really mean by that? Well, sometimes, doesn't it make sense to merely keep our mouths shut? I really wonder what i gain or people in general gain when they shoot their mouth off to a comment that was totally uncalled for only to regret it later or worse still, spend their time making up for it. Wouldn't it have made more sense to just stop and think about things before we blurt it out?
Now, i was having coffee with this friend when i came up with the above mentioned header. Smokers in general think before they speak. I mean when they are puffing and exhaling, they think of the question or the statement made, before they go on to reply in a well structured and thought out response. After all, all we needed was that extra 5 seconds to come up with a decent response and not shoot our mouths off. So therefore, if we can just adopt the smoker's mentality, and just pause for a tad longer then normal, we would save ourselves lots of arguements and silly confrontations and not jump at each other's throats.
I was also sharing with a friend that the language we use in our every day life is really important. It dictates how we do things and also our belief systems. If i say something like i can't do so and so thing, then i guess i pretty much tell myself that since i can't do it, no point even doing it. After all, since i can't why try even in the first place. If i tell myself i will get it right later, then even if i cannot get it right now, later when i have time to rethink my strategies, i will get it right. So, i guess, choice of words are important here. Alright, this post is leading no where, and since i have to log off before my brother returns, that's all the intelligent shit you get out of me today.